THE ROLLER COASTER OF MY LIFE...

Tuesday, December 14, 2010

Memories...

Kaizer and Granny B, age 2!




With Christmas coming up in just a few more days, that endless question seems to be asked in every conversation, are you done shopping or what do you want for Christmas? I asked my mom what she would like for Christmas, she didn't tell me anything right away or even for a while. We were on the phone the subject changed to our trip to Gulf Shores that is coming up and what all everyone had got for Kaizer and what we had got for Griff, and just on to the days events. We ended the conversation and she still hadn't told me anything that she wanted for Christmas, so there I sat with still no clue.



We hadn't been off the phone for even an hour and the phone was ringing, it was my momma, she told me she wanted me to write down the memories of my Great Grandma B a.k.a Nanny B and my grandparents. I was shocked and very taken aback by what she was asking given the relationship of my grandparents and I and how young I was when my Nanny B when she passed away. I asked her many times if she was sure that is what she wanted and I even told her that she didn't want my memories of my grandparents, most of them weren't that great. But she assured me that is what she wanted, my memories. She even asked me to call my brother and tell him the same thing, he had the same response as I did.



I only have 1 strong memory of my Nanny B and she was the best! She lived in a high rise of the north side of Evansville and we had gone to her apartment for Sunday dinner after church, I was probably 5 years old. I remember she had a step stool she pulled out for me to use as a seat, I loved that step stool and have no clue why! Of course Nanny had chocolate ice cream and I remember asking her for some, of course mom and dad both said no, but that didn't stop Nanny, she gave me a small bowl with 2 scoops in it before lunch! See my Nanny B was the best! This is my one and only memory of her, but I sure wish that I had more!



Now when it comes to my grandparents, I have many memories, some are better than others. My grandma was an AVON lady my whole life, so we always knew what we were getting for birthdays and Christmas, you didn't even have to think about it, always AVON! How much AVON does 1 child need! Not as much as she gave! LOL My grandma knew how to cook, deviled eggs, gravy, I miss her cooking! The holidays just aren't the same! She always had pickles at her house, in all different flavors, guess that is where my love of pickles comes from! In the 23 years of my life, I never saw my grandmothers' real hair color, how unreal is that! She had a hair and nail appointment every Friday and she never missed it!



My grandfather is different story. He was a man very set in his ways and very set in the way he thought things should be. He was a quiet man, we never really spoke much. I can remember going to his house and he would smoke his pipe, oh how I loved the smell of his pipe. Such a bad habit, but it sure smelled good. While I was in high school, I used to walk down to his house everyday after school and he would watch the same shows, Great Cooks of America at 3:00 and Great Cooks of the World at 3:30. He wouldn't change the channel during commercials, he would just put the TV on mute! If I ever needed a ride, I would always ask for him to come get me, he drove the fastest of the 2!



This Christmas as I was putting out decorations, it really hit me hard for some reason. My grandpa went into the hospital Christmas day of 1999 and never came home, he had a brain aneurysm and died February 23 2000. I remember going to see him and he was in a coma, I only went to the hospital like 3 or 4 times in the whole 8 weeks he was there. My mom came home and told me, it's over, he passed away, and I didn't believe her. I never thought that the Christmas of 1999 was the last one I would get with him, ever. I know he would have loved to see Kaizer and play with him! He would have been a much better great grandfather than he ever was a grandfather and I know this! For one thing, Kaizer is a boy, makes it a little easier on him!



After my grandfather passed, my grandmother and I got alot closer. We had dinner together at least twice a week, always at the same places, Sunday night was always JoJo's and Wednesday night was always The Merry Go Round! 2 things in her life that never changed! She used to come and watch me bowl in competitions and cheer me on. Kaizer was 8 weeks old when she finally got to meet him and he was the apple of her eye! Oh she loved my son with everything that was in her! She told everyone about him and showed off all the pictures she could of him! She was so proud of her great grandson! She was the best Granny B in the world to him! Everytime we would go to Evansville, she would put Kaizer on her lap and just hold him and play with him and you could so much joy in her eyes when he was around! In the last 2 years of her life, she got to where she needed a walker 24/7, so she got one that came with a seat on it. I can remember going to see her and she would put Kaizer on the seat and just walk him around and showing him off and telling him all sorts of stories! I wish I had that relationship with my grandma like he did, but I know what they had is special.



My grandma passed away on April 21 2008, 2 days before I turned 23. The last time I saw her, was in March of 2008 and she didn't know who I was. I miss her so much! She loved raccoons and now Kaizer has at least 3 in his room that were hers! As I was putting up my decorations this year, I pulled out some of her ornaments and it choked me up! I remember them being on her tree, but now they are on mine. Her nativity set, which I love, is now at my house, but I remember being at hers! I miss my grandma alot and this year it has just hit me worse than before and I don't know why. I wish she could be here to watch Kaizer ride his bike, learn to swim, cheer him on he bowls, all the things a grandparent should get to do. I know she rejoices up in Heaven with my Nanny B, but I would much rather have her here!







Tuesday, November 30, 2010

A Mother's Heart


Just a poem that I have had on my heart, hope you all enjoy!

A Mother's Heart

A mother's heart
Breaks when her baby cries
Rejoices when she sees her baby succeed

A mother's heart
Feels the pain of her child
Would take the pain of her child

A mother's heart
Walks outside herself
For the rest of her life

A mother's heart
Is in protection mode
Whenever as she watches her baby
Go out into this big scary world

A mother's heart
Is no longer hers
When her baby is born

A mother's heart
Will forever and always
Be filled with love, tears, and hopes!


My heart never knew such love, joy, sadness, and pain until I had Kaizer, 5 years ago. I have watched my baby fight through so much and I have cried many tears over my son, sad tears and joyful tears! He is my bright and shinning star! I am blessed beyond words that God gave me my mother's heart, and I will always and forever, remember that first kick, that first cry, and most of all the first time I saw my baby!

Saturday, November 20, 2010

Beautiful

I was driving home yesterday and I was rocking out to KLOVE, that only station ever played in my car and this song, "Beautiful" by MercyMe came on the radio! I had never heard it before and the first lyric just caught me! The lyrics just spoke so much to me and it was all I could do to hold it together!

Beautiful by MercyMe

The days will come when you don't have the strength
When all you hear is you're not worth anything
Wondering if you could be loved
And if they truly saw your heart, they would see too much

You're beautiful
You're beautiful
You are made for so much more than all of this
You're beautiful
You're beautiful
You are treasured, You are sacred, and You are His
You're beautiful

And praying that you have the heart to find
Cause you are more than what is hurting you tonight
For all the lies you held inside you've held inside so long
And they are nothing in the shadow of the cross

You're beautiful
You're beautiful
You are made for so much more than all of this
You're beautiful
You're beautiful
You are treasured, You are sacred, and You are His
You're beautiful

Before you ever took a breath
Long before the world began
Of all the wonders He possessed
There was one more precious
Of all the earth and skys above
You're the one He madly loves
Enough to death

You're beautiful
You're beautiful in His eyes

You're beautiful
You were meant for so much more than all of this
You're beautiful
You are treasured, You are sacred, You are His
You're beautiful
You're beautiful
You are made for so much more than all of this
You're beautiful
You're beautiful
You are treasured, You are scared, and You are His.

There are so many times in my life, I have felt beat down and just not worth anything to anyone, but there was always one, who was holding my hand and pulling me through, screaming, You are Beautiful, You are Mine! Praise the Lord, I am a child of the King! Even when I don't feel top great about myself and I am just beating myself up, there is the Great and Mighty Lord, telling me I am beautiful!
When I was younger, I was having a hard time accepting where I was in my life and I was doing some pretty horrible things. I was drinking everyday and doing some other things, that I am not very proud of, Satan has used that time in my life to really just beat me down. He uses the way I use to be to keep me from moving forward in my walk with the Lord. Satan tells me the God could never love someone who had the life I once had and did the things I once did. I have believed that lie from Satan more than once and it sucks. The song says, that God loved before I ever took a breath, not just loved me, but madly loved me! If God can love me even after the life I once lived, He is one amazing man! There are times, I don't even love me after the life I lived, but God is there to pick my head up and tell me, I treasure you, you are sacred, and you are more than all of that!
I am more than that life I once lived, I am more than the lies that Satan tells me to keep me down. I am treasured and I am His! I can't tell you how much that blesses me! No matter what Satan throws at you, always remember You are His, You are treasured, You are sacred, and You are so much more than all of that!

Wednesday, November 3, 2010

Hosea 13:6

"When I fed them, they were satisfied; when the were satisfied, they became proud; then they forgot me." Hosea 13:6(NIV)
Such a powerful verse! Have you ever been so hungry for the Lord, you just couldn't get enough of Him? Have you ever just wanted more and more of Him until you thought you could burst? Last night at bible study this scripture started the talk for us, and since then, this scripture has stuck with me! Kristin posed the question to us, when we think about our heaven, does it include everyone we love and all the things we enjoy? Does this heaven also have Jesus in it? Would it be the perfect heaven if Jesus wasn't there? Just think about that a minute. I had never thought about something like that before, is Jesus there or not there? I had always just assumed that of course Jesus would be there, but as the question was raised, my thoughts just got so jumbled up with the people in my life I love the most, the ones here and the ones who have gone on before. Of course I want my family to be there and to be able to spend forever with them where there is no sickness or pain, just happy, healthy people. But then of course, did I ever see Jesus in my heaven, like I said I had assumed always He would just be there. As I sat and really thought about my Heaven after bible study last night, it really hit me hard. It can't be Heaven with my Lord there for me to worship and spend my days with! Yes I want my family and friends there, but more than anything else, I want my Jesus to be there!
The scripture above hit me with such conviction, that I just couldn't believe it. Do we get so full on God and become so proud with Him, that we don't turn to him like we should? Do we always keep that first in love feeling with him? Another question posed by Kristin! When we first get saved, we are so on fire for Christ that nothing could stop us, but over time, the fire begins to burn out and then we are just get satisfied with Christ. We should always keep that first in love feeling with Him, He desires that from us! I can remember when I first got saved and all I wanted to do was be at church, but slowly that all changed. It didn't matter to me if I missed church or even if I picked up my bible, we should never get like that! I had gotten full and satisfied with the Lord, I had gotten proud, and I had forgotten all the good He has done for me! It took me many years to find my way back to that all consuming fire and passion to know more about my Lord and to worship Him the way I should! I hope and pray to never become so proud and satisfied again!

Friday, October 29, 2010

My Savior's Always There For Me

I was coming home today, I had on K-Love and the song "My Savior, My God" by Aaron Shust was playing and as I listened to the lyrics it just hit me. I have heard this song 100 times and I know the lyrics by heart, but today it took on a whole new meaning for me. I have been through so much in my life and just to know that My Savior's Always There For Me was so powerful! At the times in my life where I have felt the most alone and felt like I could turn to no one, there was God just reaching down and telling me to turn to Him! There were times in my life that I didn't want to turn to God and I wanted so much to blame God for all that has happened in my life and yet He was still right there waiting for me, how powerful of a message!
I can remember a time right after my parents had separated and I had moved 180 miles away from what I knew as my home, I just couldn't fathom the thought of God even being anywhere close to where I needed him to be. I was attending church before my parents and I prayed for my parents to not separate and for God to make them fall in love again. I was on the altar praying my heart out and crying out to God, please just hear my cry. My parents did split and after that, church was the last place I wanted to be. I remember shouting at God, why would you let this happen, how could you let this happen. It took me many years to realize that the choices my parents made had nothing to do with God, they made the choice.
Through some of the other hardships of life, I have realized that MY SAVIOR WAS ALWAYS THERE FOR ME, just waiting for me to accept him and let him be my comfort when I needed it most. Even in the worse moments of life, God has used His infinite wisdom and power to show me the good in all! I may not have always felt the giant hand of God, but I know now He Was Always There For Me, just waiting for me to grab on! Praise God, My Savior Lives, My Savior Loves, and most of all, MY SAVIOR'S ALWAYS THERE FOR ME!