Separation anxiety is a huge part of our life right now...And it is a horrible thing to go through. Since about September, Kaizer has had horrible anxiety about having to leave us. He cries and doesn't want to let go of me or Tim. He doesn't want to stay with anyone, but us, which means no time for Tim and I. I have never experienced this before and I really don't know how to help Kaizer understand that I am not going anywhere or that I will be back to get him.
Every morning at school or at least 95% of the time, he cries and doesn't want to go into class. It has gotten so bad that Mrs. Ward has had to come and drag him off of me. It breaks my heart and makes me want to cry as well. The only thing I can think of that would even trigger all of this would be the one day, back in September, I was late to pick him up from school. I didn't get there until 3:10 or so, he wasn't crying or even upset. He was sitting in the office, perfectly fine, but since that day, it has been very bad.
Even at church, he is getting very upset when it is time for Children's Church or even to go downstairs on Wed nights. He loves church and he loves the people at church, but he is so scared to leave us. Tonight at dinner, as we were talking about taking Kaizer to the church daycare, so Tim and I could go to dinner and have a night away, he broke down in tears, not just a little bit of tears, I mean full on crying. We asked him why he was acting like this and his answer was that he doesn't want to be away from us because if he isn't with us, we will forget him. We all know that we would never forget him, but he is convinced we will. I don't know where he got this idea or anything. Of course as he was breaking down crying, mom was tearing up as well.
I just wish I knew why he felt this way and where he got this idea. We have tried somethings, but nothing has seemed to help. We gave him pictures to carry in his pocket, I gave him one of my bowling pins to carry around, I leave notes in his lunch box, what else can I do? I hate this stage in his life, I hate that he is going through this. I really just hate it all.
I want him to be okay with going places without us. I want him to know that it is okay, we will always come back. I want him to know that we will never forget him. I don't know what else to do to help him. I don't know how to help him.
I just wish I knew why he felt this way and where he got this idea. We have tried somethings, but nothing has seemed to help. We gave him pictures to carry in his pocket, I gave him one of my bowling pins to carry around, I leave notes in his lunch box, what else can I do? I hate this stage in his life, I hate that he is going through this. I really just hate it all.
I want him to be okay with going places without us. I want him to know that it is okay, we will always come back. I want him to know that we will never forget him. I don't know what else to do to help him. I don't know how to help him.
Separation anxiety has turned our life upside down. It has made almost impossible to leave our child with anyone. If one of us isn't with him, he doesn't seem like himself. I wish I had the answers to make him him once again.
